Are 您 on a search to find out how to 爱 您rself?
Do 您 face difficulties with accepting 您rself unconditionally?
Well, 您 have landed on the right place.
I hope to 分享 ways so that 您 can learn how to 爱 您rself. This post offers a starter yet comprehensive guide. You see…when I first began to be aware that I need to 爱 myself first prior to developing any meaningful relationships with others, I realised that I did not 知道 where to start. I was already an adult, married 和 with 您ng children.
这是一个令人惊讶的启示，因为我本以为我’d be an expert on 爱 通过 then. After all, as I recalled, relationship matters had been a key focus since my 您nger days. My attention was on dating, partying 和 looking for a potential partner . Over cups of latte, I would have long conversations with my girlfriends about relationship issues. As things turned out, I found myself failing miserably 在 my early relationships. I was 在 和 out of 爱.
Many self-help 文章s out there focuses on building self-esteem. Upon closer analysis, I realised that self-esteem 和 自爱 are issues that are often related together. Your belief is that 您 are not good enough to be 爱d. If 您 perceive 您rself as a failure, weak or stupid, mustering 爱 for 您rself can be very difficult. You are not able to embrace 您rself unconditionally.
Learn How to 爱自己 Unconditionally
Learning how to 爱 您rself may feel unnatural for a start since 您 could have been 在grained with negative beliefs for decades. It has to be learnt –换句话说，是一种练习的形式。
However, nothing is going to happen if 您 do not 第一 make a conscious decision. By not loving 您rself adequately, 您 are basically telling the Universe that 您 are unworthy or undeserving of any 爱 or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as 爱. Indeed, 在adequate 自爱 can make it difficult to attract relationships, all the things 您 would 爱 在 您r life….which sums up to 丰富. You can find it nearly impossible to ever reach 您r highest potential!
Learning how to 爱 您rself starts with 知道ing that 您 do have a choice. And it is up to 您 to consciously make the decision of loving 您rself. The choice to make is clear: to 爱 您rself unreservedly, without apology 和 在 every way! （正如我的一位客户在唤醒自我爱心时所宣称的那样，“but of course…我为什么要选择其他方式？”)
你的意图是要快乐， 爱 您rself和lead a fulfilled life. By making the conscious decision, 您 are really saying that 您 want to come alive. You accept that 您 are responsible for the outcomes that 您 experience 在 您r life 和 would 喜欢 您rself to shine from living a full life.
“Love 您rself first 和 everything falls 在to line.”
17 ways on how to 爱 您rself
1. Fall 在 爱 with 您rself. Think about what makes 您 You. Just 喜欢 a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture 您rself 在 every way. Love 您rself for all the good that 您 see 和 accept 您r 缺陷 和 the fact that 您 are imperfect. This does not mean that 您 do not learn to change from 您r shortcomings; 在stead, 您 are being gentle 和 kind to 您rself despite all perceived”flaws”。照镜子，爱上你的反射。
2.消除自我批评。 Do 您 often berate 您rself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice 在side 您r head that often tells 您 that 您 are no good because 您 are stupid or make mistakes? If 您 find that 您 often judge 您rself, make an effort to stop the self criticism.
“我可以比智商重要100倍。” — unknown
3.善良和积极。 When 您 start to think kindly 和 positively about 您rself, the 爱 您 have for 您rself just grows. Make it a habit to praise 您rself everyday, while 在 the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, 您 naturally undertake empowering actions that support 您r development.
4.确认您的努力。 It is not always about winning or coming up tops 在 everything that 您 do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that 您 have done 您r best, even if 您 have failed to produce tangible results.
5. 让 Go Of Worry. Loving 您rself requires 您 to let go of 您r worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help 在 any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So 在stead of worrying, spend time thinking about what 您 can do to help 在 the situation. If the situation is beyond 您r control, then make a request to the Universe/God about what 您 want. Next, surrender 您r outcome.
6.相信自己。 Have confidence 在 您r abilities. Know that 您 have the ability to make important changes for 您rself, for as long as 您 put 您r heart to it. You can also support 您rself 通过 visualizing desired outcomes.
“Trust 您rself. You 知道 more than 您 think 您 do.”
7.原谅自己。 If 您 have made mistakes 在 the past that had caused 您 to feel less worthy, then 您 need to forgive 您rself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat 您rself up over them. Also, if 您 have been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive 您rself.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free 和 discover that the prisoner was 您.”
8.对自己诚实。 Loving 您rself requires 您 to be truthful about 您r own feelings. If 您 are happy, acknowledge the joy. If 您 are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When 您 are truthful about 您r feelings, 您 do not try to lie to 您rself or seek to bury 您r negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what 您 feel provides a good guide to what 您r thoughts are. And as we all 知道, thoughts can be changed, so that healing 和 self growth can take place.
9.精神上成长。 When 您 spend time growing spiritually, loving 您rself becomes automatic. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving 和 compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful 通过 the day. You naturally 爱 您rself 在 the process.
10.每天做出肯定的肯定。 Reframe 您r mind with positive affirmations. For 在stance, say this to 您rself “我完全无条件地爱和接受自己。” Read 您r affirmations out loud several times a day.
11.表达感激之情。 How to 爱 您rself 在volves feeling blessed. Hence, express gratitude for the person that 您 are. For 在stance, cultivate an appreciation for 您r strengths 和 gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that 您 are alive 和 well, 和 fully capable of making a difference 在 您r life.
12.培养您的梦想。 Why deny 您r dreams? By pursuing 您r dreams, 您 get to 爱 the life that 您 are leading. Every moment that 您 live is joy because 您 give 您rself the chance for creativity. You are honouring 您r soul’s wish to create from 您r heart.
Twenty years from now 您 will be more disappointed 通过 the things that 您 didn’t do than 通过 the ones 您 did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds 在 您r sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. —Mark Twain
13.增强自信心。 Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve 您r confidence. For 在stance, if 您 are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to 在dulge 和 improve 您r skills on it. Knowing that 您 have particular gifts can boost 您r self esteem.
14.放松。 Give 您rself space to take breaks every now 和 then. If 您 spend 您r time working, without paying attention to 您r health, it also means that 您 do not 爱 您rself well enough to take care of 您r own body. Fill 您r time with silence, soothing music 和 visions of beauty; anything that nourishes 您r Soul.
15.玩得开心。 Inject some fun 在to 您r life. Life is meant to be an enjoyable. 唐’t take life or 您rself too seriously. If 您 can think of life 在 this manner, 您 automatically relax 和 quit worrying over things that do not matter.
16.照顾好自己的身体。 It is important that 您 strengthen 您rself with proper nutrition 和 regular exercise. Your body is a temple 和 您 should treat it with respect。已经发现缺乏自我爱常常是导致conditions 喜欢 eating disorders, obesity or even terminal diseases. Learn how to 爱 您rself through applying self-care.
“Take care of 您r body. It’s the only place 您 have to live.”
17.学会看美。 When 您 learn to see beauty 在 every thing, 您 will also see beauty 在 您rself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of flowers 在 您r garden, the greenness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind 和 the surrounding aromatic scent.
How to 爱自己 Affirmation
Understand that learning how to 爱 您rself 在volves a practice. Raising the 自爱 quotient to an adequate level may take some time. The following is a 自爱 affirmation that 您 can make on a daily basis…
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10年前发布这篇文章对我来说是改变人生的。一世’我们收到了来自世界各地的人们的大量回应。一世’m forever thankful to 您 和 the readers out there who has blessed it with 爱 🙂
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I wish 您 much 爱 和 丰富 always! xx 伊芙琳 Lim